Marriage Makeover

The Marriage Makeover Conference, hosted by Gary and Drenda, is an up-close and personal look at marriage and how to do it right. To check out the CD series "The Best of the Marriage Makeover," click on our Online Store.

From Gary and Drenda:

When most people get married, they're deeply in love and convinced that they'll live happily ever after. However, once the honeymoon is officially over and you've played house for a while, you begin to see that your Prince Charming or your Cinderella isn't perfect. Habits are revealed that you may not like. Differences emerge that you didn't expect. Make up comes off and your "lovely" may not be so lovely first thing in the morning. Bills and pressures start to build. Ladies, you may find that your husband doesn't shower you with the attention and zeal that he did while you courted. Men, you may wonder what happened to the way she used to bat her eyes at you and worship your every move. You may decide that you need to change your mate. But what's really going on?

Drenda and I have been married for 25 years, and we have found that it can take a while to become "one flesh." It is a process, not an event. The marriage ceremony is there to symbolize the joining spiritually, but the physical reality of that joining takes commitment, dedication and uncompromising love. There is a pervading laziness in our culture that says, "If it's hard, I'm going to back out." Most people give up during difficult times, but those difficult times will actually forge your marriage into strong steel if you will grab each other's hands and commit to walk it out. Have faith that your future is greater than any hurt or past failure. Then mix some real change with that faith.

Gary & Drenda